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Women Don’t Fight to a Draw

Couple arguingLove is a splendid thing…until it isn’t.  In all relationships somewhere down the line the two of you are not going to see eye-to-eye.  That’s to be expected you are two people with two different personalities. I do not condone exploding, abusive speech between two people.  That really serves no purpose in a relationship.  “Screaming is just the product of an unintelligent mind that cannot express itself properly”.  I heard that in some old movie.  But lets face it arguments and disagreements are bound to happen.

Fellas we seem to be at a disadvantage when it comes to arguments with women.  Our pitfall is that we fail to recognize at times that arguing with a woman is not the same as an argument with a man.  I grew up with two brothers.  When we would fall into a disagreement logic and reason usually prevailed.  If you still had a difference of opinion you were fine with a draw or sometimes a knot upside your head.  Boys will be boys…

But women aren’t fine with a draw.

Women want to be heard, understood, and felt.  The feeling part trips us guys up all the time.  I’ve had disagreements with my lady and felt good because I got my point across eloquently and concise.  I won!  Nope. Wrong.  She was still upset and disappointed.  Though I made sense I didn’t acknowledge her feelings.  So in her mind it isn’t over. It is not over until you know what she feels.  Has your girlfriend/wife ever been mad at someone at work and because you are not upset to the same degree as her, she now has an issue with you?  It’s difficult for men to understand this.  Have you ever been at the “won’t she just get over it” point?  A woman’s stamina in this regard has wore the patience thin of many of men.

Females are different in that way.  They have deep seated emotions.  That’s why they don’t let go of things so easily or will continue to bring something up until it is handled to their satisfaction.  They truly feel.  That isn’t wrong in anyway.  We all ran into Mommy’s arms when we skinned a knee.  They’re tender like that.  Generally women are more romantic too.  Don’t act like you don’t enjoy those burning candles, Luther Vandross jams, and sips of Pinot Noir when she is in the mood.  But on the flip side of that, when they are angry or disturbed we know it.  Women don’t hide their emotions.  Most guys consider that a weakness. But, really?  Honestly it’s a strength.  That’s why so many thugs need a hug now.

But to sum it all up fellas the next time you and your lady have an argument.  Instead of thinking how to win the argument think more how you can make your relationship win.  Do you need to just listen?  Learn to make your point but still acknowledge the fact she feels a certain way.  Also something I learned along the way avoid using the words “you”, “always”, and most possessive pronouns in your argument.  Things are far more productive that way.  In her eyes she’ll feel she’s won.  Trust me if your lady is winning you’re definitely winning.

What do you all think?

Freshen up your minds,

@SireSpeaks

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